Now we all talk to ourselves, it's a natural human trait. I certainly do. But here's the thing.... What does it sound like that inner voice? Is yours kind, loving, supportive... your biggest fan? your cheerleader? OR is yours the kind of inner critic I like to call THE GREMLIN?
Hmmm... good question hey?
Well the best way to tell is to listen to the words yours is using.... Are there words such as... You can, You're good enough, Go for it, I've got your back..... OR can you hear... Don't be stupid, you can't, you're not good enough, who do you think you are? you're going to make a fool of your self.
Let's hazard a guess, if you had to say which shows up more, I'm going to bet it's your inner critic... that nagging little Gremlin... am I right?
In this instance to really want to be proved wrong. However, in my experience we all give way to that inner critic from time to time, that doubting Thomas that stops us really fulfilling our true potential.
This little blog is a subject matter I often talk about in my talks.....I wonder... just how long have you given head space to that little critter? I hope you're charging it a good rent, because I can't think of any other positive reason to give it any head space for so long, can you?
Maybe it's time to give your inner critic the heave -ho .... lets call it an eviction from the big brother house that is your head. It's 3.44pm in the big brother house and the inner critic is being evicted....
How about imagining that little critter as a cartoon character and giving it a name... you can see it now can't you? When you look at it now... well it just looks kinda funny really, that cartoon character with that silly name. Well its time that little fella ( or gal) took a long, long holiday. After all its never had a holiday has it? not for any length of time..... that's a long time to go without having a break in my opinion.... So in truth your doing it a favour... giving it a gift no less... You're so generous after all ! That's it you can see it, bags packed, little passport in hand, waving as it takes its little sabbatical to go aggravate, berate, niggle, doubt and moan to itself to its little hearts content.
As we know, when a key member of the team ( no matter how detrimental they are) is off on a break, we have to get in a replacement, a bit like getting a substitute teacher ( a good one) to cover the class... after all life is one big humongous class room and every day we're on this Earth is a school day. So guess who's coming to cover?
YOUR BIGGEST FAN!
Oh how exciting, your biggest fan is well.... just like a cheerleader, they'll be cheering you on from the sidelines, high fiving you at every opportunity ... I know you're picturing them right now aren't you?
Take a good look at them, maybe they represent someone you admire, or someone you know, or perhaps some super hero... after all they are a part of you and we absolutely know YOU ARE A SUPER HERO!
(Enter soundtrack to Wonder woman or Super man right here)
I wonder how is your life different now that your biggest fan is in residence?
What will you be, do and have now that you no longer have that little gremlin that you used to shack up in your loft space?
Wow... the World's your lobster my friend!
Anything is possible now, 'cause your biggest fan is the teacher and well that's going to make one heck of a difference. Just think of all the CANS.......
No... not that sort of cans..... I mean CANS instead of CAN'TS !
As we know success comes in cans...... not can'ts.
I urge you to take a moment now and consider the language your biggest fan is using. What pictures are you making in your head? Imagine the possibilities, they're limitless... the future is bright the future is ......
Oops in my excitement I got carried away there with word association.. of course other mobile networks are available :)
Although I could talk here about the health benefits of vitamin C... of which there are many... but we'll talk about that in a later blog.....
Seriously, your vision of the future will be so much brighter with your biggest fan in the CEO post.
Life is about to get loved up, miraculous and a whole lot more positive without the neg head, energy drain that was your inner gremlin.
Oh, and if it should try to return... He/ she who shall not be names... like a very undesirable character from Harry Potter... just remind it... YOU'RE ON HOLIDAY! MY BIGGEST FAN HAS EVERYTHING COVERED !!!!!!
And then give yourself a big hug... be sure to keep it going for 20 seconds so all those juicy feel good vibes dance around your body !
Until next time,
Make every moment count,
I've had a very fascinating week so far. I had a lovely exercise fall into my inbox from Sarah Prout - The magic of 55 x 5. Where you write an affirmation by hand 55 times for 5 consecutive days. The affirmation starts with gratitude, as in 'Thank you universe/ source/higher power/ God/ creator or any other name that sits comfortably with you and your belief system... followed by your affirmation stated ion the present tense, then how it makes you feel. So it may look something like this ' Thank you universe for the sunshiny day and picnic with the family I feel abundant and loved' Or ' Thank you universe for the bright red high heeled shoes I feel so elegant when I'm wearing them'... you get the idea... the picnic or red shoes aren't yet in physical manifestation, but you're assuming the feeling and gratitude as if it’s already real in your experience.
I loved this idea, despite the fact I probably haven't hand Witten quite so much or in such frequency since being a student! I was you could say 'fascinated' by the magic of the energetic experiment. I shared my excitement for the little magic making too, with my friends on the private Damsels in Success forum (well worth checking out too ladies, sorry gents it’s a girl thing) As I was also fascinated to see if a the energy of the collective intent would add further to this little project.
So as instructed I started writing, and a funny thing happened, my excitement grew, as I progressed a couple of pages, my inner critic popped up and started the chatter ... you know that narrative that goes something like...' This is stupid, do you honestly believe this stuff works?' but still no matter what resistance came up from the inner critic I diligently carried on. I then found I kind of drifted a little, and in that beautiful gorgeous in between space the ideas started to come, a little fuzzy at first but then they came more and more into focus!
Each time I did my daily 55 I could feel the energy and excitement building.... now I really was fascinated!
We also had a new moon on Monday, so I decided to re-start my abundance bowl and universal cheque at the same time. Focussing my intent has been interesting and again fascinating.
So today, I went to have a meeting with a client, the outcome was nothing short of magic... and my affirmation had set into motion, it was manifesting right in front of my very eyes, and only a couple of days after finishing my affirmations!
Now you can say it’s simply coincidence, or that there is no magic just concentrated focus... which of course is very true. After all as you will have heard me say many times before, where focus goes energy flows.
On my return journey along the M69 the song above was playing on my CD player. As I sang along, yes I know I am old enough to remember all the words! It struck me, when we are fascinated (as appose to the opposite feeling of frustrated, yes you've heard me talk about that before) it brings out an expansive, creative, limitless, anything is possible energy. And I have to say, fascination has proved to bring absolute MAGIC into my life experience so far this week....AND ITS ONLY WEDNESDAY!!!!!!
Looking at the lyrics, Phil Oakey and crew have it perfectly sussed..
If it seems a little time is needed
Decisions to be made
the good advice of friends unheeded
the best of plans mislaid
(Basically give yourself some space and time when making changes ....)
Just looking for a new direction
In an old familiar way
The forming of a new connection
To study or to play
( Allow new learning, play and create)
And so the conversation turned
Until the sun went down
And many fantasies were learned
On that day
( Fantasise, daydream, create, allow your mind to wander into the realms of make believe, acting as if, trying on for size, feeling how it feels)
Keep feeling fascination
Love so strong
Keep feeling fascination
( when we're fascinated energy and passion build, our pure energy of LOVE - not FEAR... yes you've heard me talk about that one too.... helps us to grow and learn and move forward)
Well the truth may need some
Stories to be told
And plain to see the facts are changing
No meaning left to hold
( When we're fascinated we start to see things from different angles, we may experience a paradigm shift, wonderful magic unfolds)
Now I've absolutely no idea if that is truly what the Human League were intending the message of the song to be, but I do know this, I'm going to keep feeling fascination and allow the MAGIC to unfold!
Today I urge you to get absolutely FASCINATED..
Let me know what occurs :)
Until next time,
make every moment count,
I wonder...... how do I show up when I'm having a good day?
Well as I have lots of sunny Yellow energy I'm guessing that I might appear enthusiastic, possibly I might become more creative, I share my optimism with the World and embrace the very best of my pure glowing yellowness!
If my Green energy is showing up ( which it generally does too ) you'll see me as calm and considerate perhaps?
Mmmm.... so what happens when I'm having a bad day?
Well I'll probably be a bit unorganised, I may come across as a bit loud and careless, or you may think me stubborn or totally withdrawn.
Isn't it interesting the difference a day makes?
Of course we always have a choice how we show up, how we choose our attitude in a morning when we get out of bed!
There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.
W. Clement Stone
As you know I've been working with colour in different guises for a very long time now, and more recently with colour personality profiling. I find it fascinating how your colour energy can shift and move in time with your mood.
Take a look at the picture above...
Do you recognise yourself on a good day and a bad day? What about those around you?
It does make you recognise the signs that your loved one may be getting stressed, or even you may recognise that you're not only having a bad day, but that your stress levels may need a bit of attention.
Sometimes all that's needed is an acknowledgement, and you can shift your energy back to having a good day. But if the bad day feeling is lingering then what can you do?
Well depending on your personal colour energies, there may be different answers to the question.
But I'd urge you to think or feel your way into what brings you back to you.
It may be going out dancing, or sitting quietly with a good book,having a massage or some reflexology ( I can help with that!) it may be walking out in nature or hitting the treadmill.Whatever is right for you and your colour energy!
But what happens when a bad few days turns into full on stress?
What happens to our energy then?
Well this is where it get really interesting!
As an example, take my predominant energy of Yellow, when under extreme stress I may tip into the opposite colour energy of Blue ( not that there's anything wrong with blue of course) but the bad day blue of a bright sunny yellow isn't an energy to be savoured. Or my strong green energy can flip into the extremely bad day of hell fire type red energy. ( I'd stand well back should that ever happen)
Take a look at the picture and see if you can recognise your own energy patterns, What's your best day and how do you show up, and then what's your worst.
If you can become aware of how your energy is showing up, if its less than best you can do something about it!
What about those around you, notice anything? If you notice that your partner is dipping into their own 'bad day' energy, maybe you can help shift them back to their best day, just by realising that their energy is off kilter, rather than reacting to their lower energy?
Its such a useful tool when you look at it, don't you think?
So today I'd urge you to have your best day, shine your colours bright upon the World, and if you're day thus far, is a little dull or grey then perhaps you can sit quietly for a moment now and bring back your balance by focussing your intent on the four elements...
The Four Element 5 minute Meditation
Earth: THE FIRST ELEMENT… Notice your feet on the ground. Press your feet on the ground back and forth slowly. Notice how the ground supports your feet……… Press your back into the chair………. Notice how the chair supports you.
Air: THE SECOND ELEMENT……..Breath….. Take a deep belly breath…One hand on your belly….One hand on your chest……breathe into your belly…..for the count of four…….and out slowly for the count of four…..notice how your hand rises on your belly as you breath in……
Water: THE THIRD ELEMENT…….Water is the saliva in our mouth…we can feel it when we are relaxed…..it dries up when we are tense ……..imagine water flowing into your mouth and feel the saliva filing your mouth
Fire: Lighting up our imagination. Going to your safe place in your mind. Notice what you see and feel. Notice what you hear and smell. Allow yourself to stay in this place for a few moments.
Until next time,
Make every moment count,
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1. If you want more than you have got, you must become more than you are.
2. Most people set goals for themselves that are outrageously safe.They keep within limits that are embarrassingly small and so lead marginal lives.
3. Too many people die at 40 and get buried at 80, living half lived lives and going to their graves with undiscovered and their best music in them.
4. If nothing changes, nothing changes.
5. If you work hard on your job you make a living, if you work hard on yourselves you can make a fortune.
6. You cannot earn an above average income, secure an above average position or receive above average recognition until you become an above average learner, an above average performer and an above average person.
7. You must either magnify your skills or modify your dreams.
8.Success is a few disciplines practiced daily, Failure is a few errors in judgement repeated daily.
9. Successful people become successful long before they are recognised as a success. They become successful during their daily routine..
10. The danger comes when we look at a day we have squandered and believe there has been no harm done.
11. Don't get "through" your day, get "from" your day.
12. Unless you change how you are, you will always have what you have got.
13. The time will come and go anyway, so why not put it to the most constructive, productive use!
14. Being broke is a temporary condition, being poor is a state of mind.
15. If you think you can play it safe and succeed in a big way, you are sadly mistaken.
16. Most people live in a world of "Lack", lack of knowledge, lack of belief, lack of courage, lack of discipline. Lack of enthusiasm, lack of faith, lack of get up and go, lack of hope, lack of inspiration, lack of motivation, lack of action, lack of energy - Stay away from the "Lackers" their contagious!
17. It's never too late to become what you might have been.
18. The past does not equal the future.
19. If you face your fears then the death of fear is certain.
20. I am your greatest companion, I am your greatest helper or heaviest burden. I will push you onward or drag you down to failure. I am completely at your command, half the things you do you might as well turn over to me, and I will be able to do them quickly and correctly. I am easily managed, you must be firm with me, show me how you want it done, after a few lessons I will do it automatically. I am the servant of all great men and women, and alas, of all the failures as well. Those who are failures I have made failures, take me, train me, be firm with me, and I will place the world at your feet! Be easy with me and I will destroy you..................................who am i?..........I am habit.
Written by Jon Davies
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